By: Emma Duca, Peer Advisor
You’ve already read about how an interview can be compared to a first date, so I’m going to take it one step further and compare the job itself to a relationship. In fact, a job IS already a relationship; it is a professional relationship between you and your employers, between you and the entire company. So, let me put on my Dr. Phil hat, as I highlight a few key tips to making a (professional) relationship work:
1. Don’t get too comfortable. In any relationship, it can be easy to assume that once you’ve made the commitment, you can now relax and stop trying, after all, the title is yours. WRONG. If anything, you want to spend your time continuing to impress and amaze your partner/employer each and every day… give them a reminder of why they chose you above everyone else. Otherwise, they will forget what it is they found so great about you and they will start searching elsewhere for that special someone.
2. Don’t be under the impression that you know everything there is to know about that person, ask questions and pay attention to their interests, who knows you may find something you both love to do! In a relationship, your significant other would love to discover that you share the same passions as them, now you have something you can both do together. That being said don’t lie… “No way, you love playing Grand Theft Auto for hours and hours on end? Me too!” . . . just doesn’t roll off the tongue for most of us. Same goes for the gentlemen; if you say you just love shopping so much you could do it all day, trust me, that is EXACTLY what you will be doing this weekend. This lesson can be directly applied when you are working at a company – find out their interests. If they contribute donations to a charity, consider volunteering once a week for that charity; if they sponsor a minor league team, attend a few of the games with some co-workers. It doesn’t have to be a big commitment, but expressing that you are passionate about the company’s interests will show that you are taking that extra step, and that you are a good fit with the company.
3. Don’t forget to stay friends. Even if the relationship doesn’t work out, maintaining a positive connection is so important; you don’t want them going around bad-mouthing you to others. The same goes for an employer. If you decide the position isn’t for you, or you are getting too swamped at school to manage a part-time job as well, make your exit gracefully and professionally. Maintaining a positive relationship with your former employer is necessary, especially if you will need references from them in the future, or if you will be applying within the company again later on. You want them to remember the great relationship you had, and not a bad break-up.
If you would like more relationship advice, make sure you tune into my talk show on Wednesdays… just kidding, my Dr. Phil career ends here. However, I will recommend coming into the Career Development Centre and skimming the shelves for “Career Cupid” by Christine Fader, who has a light and whimsical take on the process of landing (and loving) your dream job.